Why Many Indian Women Do Not Orgasm During Sex With Men
HuffPost | Fortunately, experts say it doesn’t have to be this way.
For some time, Manisha thought that the lack of her husband’s stamina was to blame for her sexual dissatisfaction. The 32-year-old came to this conclusion after she believed all other avenues had been exhausted—they’d had couples therapy and her husband had even been on medication to make him last longer during sex. When she still did not orgasm, she was convinced that the issue was one of sizing.
Her therapist then took a different approach. She asked Manisha to go home and figure out how her body responded to her own touch. She was asked to experience clitoral sensations by herself and to understand her needs and pleasure points based on this. Back at the therapist’s office after a few weeks, Manisha said she had finally climaxed.
What Manisha experienced was no magic, although its impact was life-changing. She had discovered what made her tick sexually, and equipped with a better understanding of her body she could guide her husband during sexual encounters.
“It is true that many women in India do not experience orgasms. The most common reason is their lack of understanding or acknowledging their physical needs,” says clinical psychologist Anindita Chowdhury.
