‘Indian Women Don’t Like Sex’ And Other Myths That Need To Die
Huffington Post | It’s time to wake up to women’s desires.
Telling her husband that she wanted a better sex life didn’t get Mahima Kapoor (name changed) the reaction she had hoped for.
When she approached him, after months of enduring blah bedroom sessions, he was dismissive at first, but when she continued to voice her concerns, he became violent and abusive.
Now a therapist and counsellor herself, Mahima says that it wasn’t until much later, after she went into therapy, than she realised why her husband had been so furious when all she’d wanted was a better relationship with him. He couldn’t handle the fact that she was more than just a receptacle for his desires. “My therapist helped me understand that women are sexual beings who don’t just exist for a man’s pleasure; we exist for ours,” she says. This came as an a-ha moment in a culture where women are consigned to the roles of sex-giver or caregiver, and rarely acknowledged as sexual beings.
This, say experts, is the basis for several damaging myths that prevent women from seeking their own sexual pleasure in India. Here are some.
